You Are Not Alone

You are not alone, you young mother up at 1 am.  You are not alone in feeling overwhelmed in feeling inadequate in feeling lost and afraid.  You are not alone, this I promise you.
I was at a party this weekend where first of all, someone said that she read’s my blog, which is awesome, sometimes I’m convinced the only person who reads this is my husband.  But then she also said how sometimes she feels alone sometimes. 
I read an article recently about Mom 2.0 it was in a city newspaper and was all about the modern mother on chat rooms, and blog pages.  How with the click of a mouse we can blast or praise a baby product or new toy and how we as mothers trust the opinions of mothers even those mothers we have never met before we trust any advertisements.
The article talked about mothers who were up all hours of the night across multiple time zones fulfilling the “need a village” mentality through online message boards. At 1 am when the baby hasn’t gone to bed yet and you are falling asleep on the couch you feel all alone.  Those message boards connect you with women who also aren’t sleeping, whose child is screaming and won’t stop and who maybe even got their kid to bed but now can’t sleep themsleves.  The message boards give women a place to annonomously vent and to get advice.  Mostly drama and sometimes petty these message boards can be bad for your health as all things are if not taken in moderation.  But for many women these boards connect them to someone going through the same time at the same time, literally.
I have felt alone and still do sometimes.  I feel overwhelmed on a weekly basis and don’t feel as if I’m doing everything I’m supposed to be doing.  I keep trying though and when I can try to remember to ask for help.
I think that’s the biggest thing that we as women don’t do enough.  I never ask for help.  I can do it all and I don’t need anything from anyone.  I stress myself out to the point of physical ailment and then am shocked when my husband wants to kill me.  I want to do it all and I can’t.  I am not all alone, thank god.  I have a wonderful husband who would do anything I asked him to if I would just ask him. 
For everyone out there, regardless of if you are married, almost married, single, sorta single purposefully single or oh fuck single you are not alone.  You have people around you and perfect strangers who will help you.  Know that being a mother is a complete shit show most of the time that its terrible and wonderful and the hardest thing you will ever do.  Know that even when you feel the most alone, you aren’t and that there is support out there for you in all forms.
We are not an island, we are not in a silo. We are a community, together, strong and inseperable.