I love You Because …
My sister has a picture frame in her kitchen and in it is a piece of paper that says I Love You Because … underneath the words her husband and her use a erasable marker and write each other notes.
I Love You Because …
You took out the trash
or
You let me sleep in
It’s a country themed picture in a country themed kitchen with a country themed concept. Appreciate the person you married, remind them that you love them and let them know specifically why.
Most will tell you the divorce rate is 50%, most of that is hearsay as most of us haven’t done the research.
I won’t claim to have done all the research as finding a hard and fast number on divorce is actually pretty difficult. The problem being that divorce rates are different for different groups of people. There are divorce rates on the 1st marriage, divorce rates on the second marriage, divorce rates on couples age 20 – 24 and then 25 – 29. Divorce trends in the south (higher by the way) compared to the northeast (lower), at least according to the 2009 Census . If you read the article though that particular trend is because education level in the south tends to be lower than the education level in the northeast. The southern states have a higher marriage rate and at a lower average age, leading to on average a higher divorce rate.
My point is that we are all children of divorce. Whether your parents are still married or not, you grew up in a culture where divorce was prevalent and accepted, for the most part. So we are all tainted by its presence.
I sent my husband an e-mail yesterday saying “I love you because …. we took our son to daycare for the first time and I was so happy that we did it together.” A simple thing, nothing extraordinary but it was important to me and when I gave him to his daycare provider and walked out the door, a lump formed in my throat. My husband looked at me and said “it’s going to be ok” he kissed me and I didn’t cry. I feel confident I would have if he hadn’t been there.
I challenge you to write an e-mail or send a text or leave a note or shoot a facebook message titled I love you because every day for 1 month. I challenge you because whether or not we are married, the negatives are always easier to focus on than the positives.
Life and love aren’t about whether he remembered to take out the trash and whether you remembered to buy him new socks. It’s about taking your son to daycare; making sure to have a relationship; sharing your hopes, dreams, plans. It’s about the big stuff and the best way to enjoy the big stuff is to remember the little stuff.
So I love you because …
